Parenting is a rollercoaster ride—filled with love, joy, and the occasional sheer terror. For one Malaysian mom, the ride took a sharp, unexpected turn when a trusted friend crossed an unthinkable line.
This mom, known online as Haider’s mother, shared her harrowing experience in a TikTok video that left viewers stunned. She recounted how she had entrusted her baby boy to a close friend’s care for a short moment while preparing for a gathering. What she discovered moments later was beyond anything she could have imagined.
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“I was busy carrying things, and she asked for Haider,” the mother explained, her voice heavy with disbelief. “Since she was someone close to me, I handed him over without a second thought. But then, I saw her doing something at the back of the hall. Turns out, she was breastfeeding Haider.”
That moment alone was enough to shake any parent to the core. But it didn’t stop there.
Confronted, the friend defended her actions, claiming she breastfed the baby because he was crying—even though the mom had just fed him. This excuse, however, didn’t sit well with Haider’s mother. “Which mother can accept her baby being directly breastfed by someone else when she herself has breastmilk?” she questioned, her frustration and pain evident.
And just when it seemed the ordeal was over, the friend struck again. The mother revealed: “She was caught not once, but twice. The second time, it was my mother who caught her. Now, I’m struggling to shake off this nightmare.”
The betrayal has left a deep scar. “It’s difficult for me to trust anyone now,” the mother admitted. “I’m very disheartened. I take such care to protect my children, ensuring no one randomly kisses or hugs them, because I’m terrified of them catching diseases.”
Unsurprisingly, TikTok users were horrified. “Don’t trust anyone after this,” one person warned in the comments, while another added, “New fear unlocked.”
The incident sheds light on a practice that, while shocking today, was once a common part of history. Before the invention of formula and baby bottles, wet nurses—a lactating woman feeding someone else’s child—were often employed. These days, though, mothers typically opt for safer options, like expressing milk or using formula.
As for Haider’s mom, she’s not taking any chances going forward. Trusting friends to help with her child? That chapter is closed, at least for now.
This story serves as a chilling reminder of how parenting, while rewarding, also comes with its share of unpredictable challenges. What would you have done in her shoes? Share this with a friend and let the conversation unfold!
