Planning a wedding can be stressful, but for one bride-to-be, it’s become a full-blown crisis over food choices. She’s even considering calling off her big day with her fiancé after a heated argument over the wedding menu. Why? Because he’s a vegan, and he’s demanding that the reception serve only plant-based dishes—no exceptions.
The woman, who wrote in for advice, shared that while her fiancé’s vegan lifestyle has never been an issue before, it’s become a major sticking point when it comes to their wedding. She’s a meat lover—think burgers, steaks, and all things carnivorous—so when it came to choosing what to serve their guests, she was expecting a more balanced menu. But he’s stuck on the idea that serving meat would “offend” his family, who are all vegan.
She writes, “My wedding is coming up in a few months, but we’ve had so many arguments over the food, I’m not sure I even want to go through with it anymore.” She admits that when they first met, his veganism was a turn-off, but as their relationship deepened, it didn’t feel like such a big deal. Now, however, she’s questioning everything.
The problem started when he proposed. She says, “When we started planning the wedding, he told me that no meat could be served at the reception. He’s worried that his family will be upset just by being around it.” This sparked months of tension, with the couple having intense “screaming matches” over the food choices. Things got so heated that they argued in front of the caterer after she suggested sampling a meat dish, leaving the bride baffled. “It doesn’t make sense that he’s fine with meat at home but won’t allow it at our wedding,” she says.
The situation has left her feeling torn, especially since her family and friends would be “miserable” with a vegan-only menu. But when she voiced her concerns, he made it clear that his family’s comfort came first. “He’s acting like his family is the only one that matters,” she says.
Now, she’s got cold feet. “I’m terrified I’ve made a huge mistake. Am I really about to call off my wedding over a steak?”
In response, a relationship columnist explained that this issue is bigger than just food. It’s about compromise and respecting each other’s needs in a marriage. “Weddings are about more than just the day—they set the tone for the whole relationship,” the columnist advised.
Commenters on the advice column were quick to weigh in. One wrote, “Run, girl, run! He’s putting his mom above everything else, and that’s a red flag. This won’t be the last time you have a battle over family priorities.” Others warned her that this could become a lifelong issue, not just at weddings, but at every family gathering. “If she stays, she’s signing up for a lifetime of divisive arguments,” one person commented.
As more people weighed in, one reader suggested postponing the wedding to have a serious conversation about their future. “What if he decides he doesn’t want meat in the house? What about kids? So much to think about before you tie the knot.”
Ultimately, the consensus was clear: if he won’t budge on this issue, the bride might need to reconsider the marriage. After all, this might just be the beginning of a much bigger problem.
