Weddings are meant to be joyful, but one bride’s request has turned into a full-blown online debate.
A 23-year-old bridesmaid recently shared her story on a Reddit forum, revealing that her friend, Katie, asked her to be part of her big day. But before she could get too excited, the bride hit her with an unexpected request: Wear a bra to the wedding.
The bridesmaid was baffled. She explained that she doesn’t typically wear bras because they’re uncomfortable, and with her small chest, it’s usually not noticeable anyway. Plus, the dress she planned to wear had full sleeves and thick fabric—so why did it even matter?
Still, the bride insisted, telling her to “suck it up” because she didn’t want any potential wardrobe mishaps at her wedding.
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Naturally, Reddit had a lot to say about this one. Many sided with the bride, arguing that the bridesmaid might not realize how noticeable it actually is.
“If she’s bringing it up, maybe it’s more obvious than you think,” one person pointed out. “Is this really the hill you want to die on?”
Another added, “You might not think people can tell, but trust me, they can. Just wear a comfortable one and move on.”
Others, however, were firmly on the bridesmaid’s side.
“It’s not like your bare nipples are out,” one commenter wrote. “If someone is that offended by the idea of a nipple, that’s their problem, not yours.”
Another user took it even further, saying, “This is about controlling women’s bodies. It’s not about the outfit—it’s about people perceiving her body in a way they don’t like.”
Some Redditors even suggested a compromise: “If it really bothers you, just wear it for the ceremony and take it off after the photos.”
So, Who’s in the Wrong?
While opinions remain split, one thing is clear—what seemed like a small request turned into a much bigger conversation. Should bridesmaids be expected to follow dress codes to the letter? Or should personal comfort come first?
What do you think? Would you wear the bra or stand your ground? Let us know in the comments!
