When Dylan Stone-Miller, a 32-year-old software engineer from Georgia, saw a photograph of a child named Harper, it changed everything. Harper wasn’t just any child—she was one of 96 children Dylan fathered through sperm donation.
“I think of her as my first child,” Dylan shared in an interview. That single photo sparked a profound determination in him: he wanted to meet as many of his biological children as possible.
Driven by this goal, Dylan made a bold decision. He quit his job, using his savings to fund his quest to connect with his children. So far, he’s met 25 of them and continues to seek out the rest.
On Instagram, Dylan introduced himself to the world as “Donor Dylan.” He wrote: “I donated sperm on and off from 2011 to 2016 and now have at least 96 biological offspring in six countries.” But even with this massive number, Dylan admits, “I will never know for sure how many children I have.”
This incredible journey took an unexpected turn in 2020 after Dylan divorced his wife. That year, he received a message from Alicia Bowes, one of Harper’s two mothers. Alicia had pieced together Dylan’s identity through social media and details from his donor file. Her message was filled with gratitude.
Soon after, Dylan joined a Facebook group for parents of children conceived using his donor ID, ‘Xytex 5186 Offspring.’ What started as a casual connection turned into a supportive community, with parents from 20 families inviting Dylan to meet their kids.
For Dylan, this isn’t just about making connections. “I wanted to watch the children grow up,” he explained. His dedication even led him to create a detailed spreadsheet to track the names, birthdays, and milestones of his biological kids.
But building these relationships hasn’t been easy. Alicia Bowes, who allowed Dylan to visit her family twice last year, shared, “There are moments when it feels intrusive. It’s about figuring out boundaries—both for us and for Dylan.”
She’s also clear about one thing: “He is not her dad. Period.” According to Alicia, her daughter Harper has a donor, not a father.
For Dylan, this distinction is complicated. “It was hard to look my biological daughter in the eye and tell her I wasn’t her dad,” he admitted.
This unique story has drawn comparisons to the movie Delivery Man, where a man discovers he’s the biological father of dozens of kids. But for Dylan, this isn’t just a plotline—it’s his real life.
As he continues his journey, Dylan remains committed to navigating these complex relationships with respect and care. What’s clear is that his story is one of resilience, curiosity, and a desire to connect with the lives he unknowingly helped create.
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